Sexual Identity Confusion & Complications

Gender and sexuality are very complex, personal attributes which can lead to tremendous amounts of confusion and complication for some women.

Sexual identity includes a person’s gender, orientation and preferences. Gender encompasses how masculine or feminine you see yourself, how you present yourself and how you identify yourself. This could be male, female, something in between or a bit of both. Some even feel as though the gender of their physical body does not match the gender of their mind.

A sexual orientation is the category to which you feel you belong based on the gender of people you are sexually attracted to. There are many different orientations such as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual and even asexual. These orientations represent an attraction to those of the same sex, opposite sex, both or neither. Sexual preference on the other hand, means the behaviours and sexual partners you prefer. Preference is a choice, whereas orientation is not.


How does sexual identity affect me?

All of these dimensions are very complex and come together to create sexuality and sexual identity. The most important part of a sexual identity is that it is how you identify yourself. This means that it is completely your own to judge, explore, discover and decide upon. Every person is different and every person’s idea of their own sexual identity or sexuality will be different.

No orientation or identity alone is disordered, but confusion and distress over one’s identity can lead to serious mental health issues. Gender and sexual diversity can be an exciting and beautiful thing, but it can also be quite confronting. In a society where the norm is to be either one of two genders and heterosexual, having a different sexual identity can be especially troubling.

Sexual and gender identity can complicate sexual and romantic relationships as well as family dynamics and friendships. It can elicit unwanted attention or discrimination, make work or other activities stressful, and ultimately make you feel abnormal or uncomfortable in your own skin. Women who are feeling confused about their identity, are beginning a new sexual relationship, are struggling with an existing partner or those who are trying to manage their identity in everyday life can experience significant distress.


How can a FemTherapy Clinic Sex Therapist help?

If you are struggling with coming to terms with your own sexual identity or if you are having difficulty expressing yourself in relationships or other parts of your life – we’re here to help. FemTherapy can support you through your path of self-discovery whether it be coming out, transitioning, exploring your own sexuality or managing diverse relationships. Our therapists offer one-on-one or couples therapy to help you in any way you need.