How does Pregnancy Effect your Sex Life?

The majority of women will have at least one pregnancy in their lifetimes and although the medical system is well-equipped to deal with the healthcare of you and your baby – it pays little attention to a woman’s sexuality throughout this process.

For example, less than 20% of OBGYNs ask their patients about their sexual concerns. It’s no secret that a woman’s sexuality is affected before, during and after pregnancy in a number of positive and negative ways. We recognize the importance of your concerns at the FemTherapy Clinic and we can help!

During pregnancy there are a number of hormonal, physical and emotional changes which can affect a woman’s sex life. Each trimester brings different challenges and changes such as different hormone and libido levels, body size and weight increases, and changing self-esteem. It is common for women to experience breast tenderness, nausea, fatigue and/or fear of miscarriage. Some experience an increase in sex drive and more orgasms and some experience the opposite. These changes can be both beneficial and detrimental to a woman’s sexual functioning.

Every pregnancy, every woman and every couple are different and although it may seem complicated, it is possible to maintain a safe, pleasurable and satisfying sex life throughout your pregnancy.


Having Fertility Trouble

Couples or women trying to get pregnant often face sexual and relationship difficulties as well. Trying to get pregnant often puts sex on a schedule which can take all the fun out of it. The demand for sex in order to conceive can be very stressful, frustrating and ultimately not enjoyable.

Having trouble getting pregnant and undergoing fertility treatments can be even more damaging to a couple’s relationship. Fertility treatments may take years and can be very expensive which puts a strain on relationships. Treatments also tend to have physical side effects such as weight gain, anxiety as well as vaginal pain and dryness.

The responsibility or disappointment that comes with not being able to get pregnant often falls to the partner with the fertility issue which can create tension, blame and distress in the relationship. Many women and couples experiences several failed cycles of fertility treatments or may conceive but miscarry the pregnancy. This experience creates a deep sense of loss and grief.


Experiencing an Unwanted Pregnancy

Falling pregnant unexpectedly or facing an unwanted pregnancy can be very emotionally distressing. Examining the options and deciding how to proceed with an unplanned pregnancy can be a very troubling and confusing process. Women often feel shocked and alone and must decide whether to involve the partner, their family and reflect on their values and expectations in a rather short period of time. Deciding what to do about an unwanted pregnancy can be very difficult and confusing, but you don’t have to do it alone.


What can a FemTherapy Clinic Sex Therapist do to help?

If you are pregnant or are trying to become pregnant and are experiencing any of the above issues, we can help. Your treatment here at FemTherapy will be individually tailored according to your needs. Our psychologists and sex therapists will help support you and your partner through these changes to help you maintain a safe and satisfying sex life.

If you are experiencing sexual difficulty during your pregnancy, we can help you to manage symptoms through individualised treatment and adapt your sexual routine to account for bodily changes.

Our FemTherapy professionals can also support you throughout the process of trying to get pregnant. We can treat you for specific physical side effects or sexual dysfunctions related to fertility treatment, and we can help you deal with the emotional consequences of this process either individually or in couples counselling. We will help you stay on track sexually by maintaining the spontaneity and fun in your sex life or help you reclaim it if it’s been lost along the way.

If you are currently experiencing or have experienced an unwanted or unexpected pregnancy in the past, we can help. Our team of trained psychologists can help explain all of your options and support you in making the right decision for yourself. We can also help to counsel and support you in moving on emotionally, sexually and romantically from a past experience of unplanned pregnancy.